Tuesday, September 6, 2011

not the one

i just got a phone call from bethany.  unfortunately it was not the call we'd wanted to receive.  turns out that e-mom actually had her sweet baby girl two weeks ago, but decided that she wanted to parent.  while we're happy for her and her family with this blessing of a little baby, we're devastated.

i guess this was not our sweet darling deer afterall.

(ps - have to add that our social worker just got the email from e-mom this morning and she called us and forwarded us the email as soon as she got them.  unfortunately e-mom had not returned our social worker's previous calls or emails since august 5th.)

9 comments:

Ashley said...

Oh, Adri, I'm so sorry to hear this. Why in the world did they wait so long to tell you???
Praying for you and your husband as you process this.

Kat said...

I love you guys more than I can say and I am so sorry. Please know Mark and I are right here for whatever you need. We are praying for all of you.

Bonky's Mom said...

I've read your blog for a few months and honestly can't even remember how I found you. I don't think I've ever commented before, but this post resonates with me. You see, I know what you guys are going through. Let me back up. I realize I cannot fully 'know' because each of us experiences different things in such a deeply painful situation, but my husband and I have gone through three failed adoptions. So I think I know a bit of the devastation you are going through. The first one was after we'd taken custody of one of our three triplet baby girls. We spent one week at home with daily phone calls to the long distance hospital and had spent two weeks in NICU with our sweet babies, feeding, bathing, loving and falling in love. And then our entire world turned inside out when we got a call from our agency that we were to leave the hospital and say goodbye. So I say I know what you are going through not to diminish your own personal experience of deep loss and grief, but to let you know I will be the first to stand up and say that it's an experience that rips your heart out...so many people don't understand that unfortunately. So today know that a stranger who has walked this same adoption loss journey is praying for you and your husband...and your hearts. I am so, so sorry.

Melodie said...

this is not what i was wanting to see today. i don't have much to offer. i only know it might make a little more sense once you have YOUR baby in your arms. praying for you both today!

beth said...

Sister,

I left you a message on FB...

I am praying for you...

S and J said...

I am so sorry. I know how hard a failed adoption can be. Have faith and know God's plan cannot be thwarted.

Kelly said...

I'm so sorry to read this. I know what a devastating time this is and even though we don't know each other IRL I will be praying for you and your husband. God does have a plan, even in the pain.

SassyIfLady said...

Adri, I'm so, so, so sorry. I know this was heartbreaking news. I'm thinking of you guys...take care!

The Daddy said...

Our hearts broke for you when we read your news. I know that this may seem "easy for you to say", but know that God does have that perfect little child for you. Don't lose hope. We are praying for you both.