finding a family: mother's day weekend

Friday, May 6, 2011

mother's day weekend

i vividly remember previous mother's days being full of sorrow. i remember getting cards from my mom and others that were sympathetic to my situation, but still never wiping away the pain of the day itself.

i think the thing that always haunted me was just never knowing if i'd be someone's mother. longing to be that person for someone had left a giant void in my heart. it was hard to bare, thinking i would be childless.

this year as we head into mother's day weekend it feels different. the other day i got this joyous card in the mail - the tone is totally different from the cards i've gotten on past mother's days.

it's now that we wait in joyous unfailing hope - knowing that our baby is out there somewhere - and that soon they will find their way to us. we know the journey (specifically the wait) may be long, and we really are fine with that. we find comfort in knowing that all of this has happened for a reason, and that our family will come together as it was designed - knowing that one day i will be someone's mommy and the hubbs will be the daddi-o.

2 comments:

Melodie said...: so glad that Sunday will be a joyous occassion for you. and here's to hoping that the next mother's day, your babe will be in your arms!; May 6, 2011 at 9:16 PM
Ashley said...: So glad to hear your hopeful post! Hope you have a very joyful Mother's Day!; May 7, 2011 at 11:55 AM

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adoption timeline

june 9, 2015 - active waiting family
april 15, 2015 - homestudy visit conducted
march 30, 2015 - homestudy visit scheduled
november 18, 2014 - homestudy packet submitted
august 18, 2014 - formal application approved
july 27, 2014 - submitted formal application online via portal
june 26, 2014 - pre-approval received
june 23, 2014 - submitted pre-application to bethany christian services
november 15, 2013 - prayerfully considering adoption #2
march 6, 2012 - final decree of adoption received - "said minor declared adopted for life"
november 17, 2011 - revocation period expired
november 10, 2011 - daxton comes home from the hospital
november 8, 2011 - meet our sweet darling deer for the 1st time
november 7, 2011 - phone call from bethany that this sweet mommy had gone into labor
november 4, 2011 - confirmed match
november 3, 2011 - face to face meeting went fantastically well - we feel optomistic about this opportunity
october 31, 2011 - phone call for possible match - face to face meeting set up for november 3
september 6, 2011 - profile book added back to active family list
september 6, 2011 - failed match - mother elected not to place
august 4, 2011 - face to face meet up went well - we feel strongly that this is the match God intended
august 2, 2011 - phone call for a possible match - face to face meeting set up for august 4
june 17, 2011 - officially formally waiting
june 10, 2011 - profile books sent to nc offices
june 9, 2011 - profile books received
june 9, 2011 - web profile online
june 2, 2011 - received completed home assessment for review
may 31, 2011 - profile book ordered
may 19, 2011 - final home study meeting
may 10, 2011 - second of three home study meetings
april 29, 2011 - first of three home study meetings
april 26, 2011 - second portion adoption seminar raleigh, nc
april 1, 2011 - adoption seminar arden, nc
march 20, 2011 - completed pre-assessment paperwork and fedexed back to bcs
february 22, 2011 - formal application approved
february 2011 - submit formal application
january 2011 - send requested supporting documentation
december 2010 - submit initial adoption application with bethany christian services
august 2010 - will is given the green light from johns hopkins university that his surgery was effective
july 2010 - speak with another adoptive family working with bethany christian services and affirm that we feel most comfortable with this agency
june 2010 - resubmit for a few new adoption paperwork packets so we can narrow down the agencies
april 2010 - will undergoes decompression surgery (brain surgery) - and we see now more than ever why we are on an adoption journey to build our family
march 2010 - mri leads to appointment with neurosurgeon and diagnosis of arnold chiari malformation with syringomyelia
february 2010 - will has unexplained back pain which leads us to have an mri
june 2009 - january 2010 - sorting through all packets, reading blogs and forums, and trying to decide what agency to work with
may 2009 - request adoption information packets from multiple agencies
april 2009 - we see God's plan for adoption so clearly
april 2009 - adrianne put on femera and ovidrel. after first series of medications - adrianne ends up in er with allergic reaction.
april 2009 - determined there is "no known cause" for our infertility
april 2009 - adrianne has hysterosalpingogram to confirm no tubal blockage on the left side
march 2009 - referred to infertility specialist and both undergo testing
august 2008 - march 2009 - still wondering what path we're on
july 2008 - after weeks of putting it off and rechecking - still no growth - d&c was performed - second baby sent to heaven
july 2008 - go to another doctor who confirms baby is not growing
july 2008 - doctor cannot find heartbeat, tells us we need to schedule a d & c
june 2008 - bfp
may 2004 - may 2008 - trying to find our way - submitted an inquiry for adoption paperwork - and continued month after month of bfn
april 2004 - sweet baby sent to heaven
april 2004 - sonogram shows stagnant growth, asked to not leave the country on our mexico trip - was told pregnancy would not last
april 2004 - doctor confirms no heartbeat
march 2004 - bfp
february 2004 - we feel the timing is right and go off birth control and begin ttc
1997 - 2004 - adrianne has continued pain from cysts that are monitored on a quarterly basis, however no further surgery was required
spring 1996 - diagnosed pcos with 9cm cyst consuming right ovary and fallopian tube. had removal of ovary, tube, cyst and were told adrianne may never get pregnant.