finding a family: patience

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

patience

got an email from Bethany Christian tonight. i was hoping for a packet - the next steps - the seminar - something. it was a Christmas card - and don't get me wrong, it was wonderful - just not what i thought we needed right at that moment.

seems like we've had lots of lessons in patience through the years. i mean, it's not like we just showed up on this journey without a lot of hard work to get to this point, and it took us 6 years of being infertile to know we were on the right path. however, now that the initial paperwork is in it seems like we need patience now more than ever.

we know there are going to be things we cannot control - the time line in which everything happens on everyone else's end is one of those things - the critical one of those things. we are just so over the moon ready for this to happen it seems like we're in the home stretch, when really we have not even begun.

so - we're going to work on our patience, and trust in GOD to know that when the right baby is born HE will send us right to them.

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adoption timeline

june 9, 2015 - active waiting family
april 15, 2015 - homestudy visit conducted
march 30, 2015 - homestudy visit scheduled
november 18, 2014 - homestudy packet submitted
august 18, 2014 - formal application approved
july 27, 2014 - submitted formal application online via portal
june 26, 2014 - pre-approval received
june 23, 2014 - submitted pre-application to bethany christian services
november 15, 2013 - prayerfully considering adoption #2
march 6, 2012 - final decree of adoption received - "said minor declared adopted for life"
november 17, 2011 - revocation period expired
november 10, 2011 - daxton comes home from the hospital
november 8, 2011 - meet our sweet darling deer for the 1st time
november 7, 2011 - phone call from bethany that this sweet mommy had gone into labor
november 4, 2011 - confirmed match
november 3, 2011 - face to face meeting went fantastically well - we feel optomistic about this opportunity
october 31, 2011 - phone call for possible match - face to face meeting set up for november 3
september 6, 2011 - profile book added back to active family list
september 6, 2011 - failed match - mother elected not to place
august 4, 2011 - face to face meet up went well - we feel strongly that this is the match God intended
august 2, 2011 - phone call for a possible match - face to face meeting set up for august 4
june 17, 2011 - officially formally waiting
june 10, 2011 - profile books sent to nc offices
june 9, 2011 - profile books received
june 9, 2011 - web profile online
june 2, 2011 - received completed home assessment for review
may 31, 2011 - profile book ordered
may 19, 2011 - final home study meeting
may 10, 2011 - second of three home study meetings
april 29, 2011 - first of three home study meetings
april 26, 2011 - second portion adoption seminar raleigh, nc
april 1, 2011 - adoption seminar arden, nc
march 20, 2011 - completed pre-assessment paperwork and fedexed back to bcs
february 22, 2011 - formal application approved
february 2011 - submit formal application
january 2011 - send requested supporting documentation
december 2010 - submit initial adoption application with bethany christian services
august 2010 - will is given the green light from johns hopkins university that his surgery was effective
july 2010 - speak with another adoptive family working with bethany christian services and affirm that we feel most comfortable with this agency
june 2010 - resubmit for a few new adoption paperwork packets so we can narrow down the agencies
april 2010 - will undergoes decompression surgery (brain surgery) - and we see now more than ever why we are on an adoption journey to build our family
march 2010 - mri leads to appointment with neurosurgeon and diagnosis of arnold chiari malformation with syringomyelia
february 2010 - will has unexplained back pain which leads us to have an mri
june 2009 - january 2010 - sorting through all packets, reading blogs and forums, and trying to decide what agency to work with
may 2009 - request adoption information packets from multiple agencies
april 2009 - we see God's plan for adoption so clearly
april 2009 - adrianne put on femera and ovidrel. after first series of medications - adrianne ends up in er with allergic reaction.
april 2009 - determined there is "no known cause" for our infertility
april 2009 - adrianne has hysterosalpingogram to confirm no tubal blockage on the left side
march 2009 - referred to infertility specialist and both undergo testing
august 2008 - march 2009 - still wondering what path we're on
july 2008 - after weeks of putting it off and rechecking - still no growth - d&c was performed - second baby sent to heaven
july 2008 - go to another doctor who confirms baby is not growing
july 2008 - doctor cannot find heartbeat, tells us we need to schedule a d & c
june 2008 - bfp
may 2004 - may 2008 - trying to find our way - submitted an inquiry for adoption paperwork - and continued month after month of bfn
april 2004 - sweet baby sent to heaven
april 2004 - sonogram shows stagnant growth, asked to not leave the country on our mexico trip - was told pregnancy would not last
april 2004 - doctor confirms no heartbeat
march 2004 - bfp
february 2004 - we feel the timing is right and go off birth control and begin ttc
1997 - 2004 - adrianne has continued pain from cysts that are monitored on a quarterly basis, however no further surgery was required
spring 1996 - diagnosed pcos with 9cm cyst consuming right ovary and fallopian tube. had removal of ovary, tube, cyst and were told adrianne may never get pregnant.